Upcoming Appearances - When and Where to learn, serve and play

Halloween - 2nd Annual Witches Ball and Brew Ha Ha, for those of you on Fetlife you can RSVP here https://fetlife.com/events/429590. -Wonderland- is the host and the venue includes outdoor play areas (oh hell yea bring on the sensual night sky while I strike you) and a Dexter Room (this heavy medical slut is about to make some human pin cushion very happy).

November 10 - John Hopkins University, Human Sexuality and Gender, Guest Lecturer. I will be accepting sessions in DC from Nov 8-13. Please email dominavontana@gmail.com for availability.

December 30-31 - Another amazing #LivingSexy event is about to happen. This is my favorite event every year filled with sexy, passionate couples. I will be teaching a BDSM 101 seminar Saturday afternoon. Visit www.sinn-ergy.com for more info. Total hotel take over. 500+ couples. Formal NYE party followed by an after party that you will never forget, and I’ll be there once again with my team to host the dungeon. Wanted to try something? This is your night to do it...Mistress will be waiting.

And if you have not yet check out my latest project, 13 Mantras, do so NOW! It’s a multimedia journey through the dungeon https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0sRpXt8qgkk

Pleasure V Desire - The Erotic Crucible of Intent

Pleasure and desire are not the same thing. Plenty of people desire something that is no good for them. The difference with BDSM is that we combine the two – pleasure and desire – and the result is actually something good for you. Kinky individuals often endure undesirable scenarios for the perceived pleasurable outcome. In this way BDSM is akin to exercise. Sometimes the pleasurable reward at the end is an orgasm, but more often than not the most precious consequence is a fresh memory that will result in many more orgasms later on.

Orgasms are after all a physical phenom and by experiencing the real thing, the cycle is supplemented. Bonus – endorphins. The endorphin dump occurs during or immediately following the undesired experience, for example a spanking severe enough to be uncomfortable. A real time physical experience of a frequent fantasy serves to reinforce the capacity of the mind to keep the scene alive and fresh enough to elicit the common response – an orgasm either alone or while with a partner. Yes, your partner fantasizes about other people during sex and so do you.

So the reason BDSM is all about fantasy is not because it’s not real sometimes. It’s all about fantasy because at its core even the smallest experience with BDSM seems to result in memories that are longer lasting and more powerful than the average sexual occurrence. Or at least that’s my conclusion after talking to 1,000 of people about their sex lives. Strong memories serve to fuel the erotic imagination long after the scene has ended and the toys are put away.

Those on the outside often confuse desire and pleasure and conclude that kinky people are somehow different, or more dangerous than themselves. The truth is kinky people are just better at being adventurous. Taking risks doesn’t come naturally to everyone. And it takes a certain degree of comfort with risk to engage in a lot of kinky activities because the objects although often common, are portrayed and applied in ways that are uncommon, ie perverted. If you want to try a little kink, pick a risk you are comfortable with and dive right in. The pleasure will out weigh the pain, I promise.    

Spend the Night in the Stars #NYE #WashgintonDC #LivingSexyDC #LiveSexy #Dungeon #Mistress

Early Bird ticket sales ends Dec 14 at midnight – Save $125+ per couple

This NYE Sinn-ergy is hosting their 5th annual event. This year’s theme is “MidWinter Dream.” The dress code is formal. The theme is black, white and silver.

This year’s venue is stunning. The after party space has a nearly panoramic view of the Potomac, up above it all. It offers total privacy and the opportunity to play among the stars. The guest list is curated by the host who was has attended similar events all around the world. He uses is global understanding of the lifestyle and naturally sensual esthetic to create one of a kind events from beginning to end.

NYE with Sinner-ergy is an event within an event. The first party is a sexy extravaganza. One of my favorite elements of the event is how much thought the guests always put into their fashion choices. The first time I heard about rent the runway was at one of these events. The woman was wearing a $5000 Bradley Misckah gown and it showed. If you can manage to pull your eyes off the twinkling crowd you’ll be treated to feast on live entertainment by a variety of professional performers.

The after party happens as soon as the ball drops. Each room has a different theme and the event is BYOB. Thoughtful supplies are always available including lots of water because it is always a long, hot night. This year’s dungeon is going to be a femme fatal free for all. I’m bringing all my best girls. I cannot wait to party with my fellow Femdoms and put some moves on the crowd. If you ever wanted to try something different, we’ll be waiting for you.

Feeling Blue

We’ve all heard of the red room. And even before that, some of us knew that “red” was the most common safe word. Then if you played with others there might be a “yellow” but usually there was no “green” because let’s face it – everyone agrees green is the agreed upon signal. When it comes to BDSM once the game is on, the scene has started and the implements have been applied and snapped into place “green” is what it’s all about. Do me do me do me please! Am I right? or in My case, I’m going to do do do you! 

But even in the doing certain things feel better than others. Some things even feel JUST SO GOD DAMN RIGHT. So perfect. All at once your Dom(me) hits that perfect spot in such a way that it is not only exactly the sensation you’ve always craved and never known was possible BUT – it is repeatable. You know and your body is screaming at you that if they just repeated that one little stroke or whip of the implement (hand, crop, actual whip lol) that you could feel that good all over again...and again...and again.

Well friends, in that moment, let me introduce you to BLUE, your new best friend and the latest safe word making the hot rounds of the even hotter, sweatier dungeon play parties and bedroom showdowns.

It’s that simple – sure if you want it to stop, say “red.” If you want it to slow down, say “yellow” and if your Dom is doing something right, oh SO righ that you think your spirit might have just exploded inside your body in ecstasy, well then…for Goddess’s sake SAY IT - "Blue!" Because now you have a word for that too.

Because knowing what you don’t want (red/yellow) is important, but knowing what you DO want? Is empowering.

So next time your honey caresses or cracks you with just the right toy tip or tool? TELL THEM

Say it sub, I want to hear you say it – “Blue.” Because even tops need to know when they’re doing something just right, because NO ONE is a mind reader. And you deserve to feel as good as humanely possible. 

bluuue...means do it again please 

Welcome to My New Website!

It's been nearly five years since my last website was built - can you believe it! And the best part, I still have the same webslave. Except now he's my husband too. Service for real. Thank you so much slavee, Mistress is very blessed to have you by my side (and at my feet sometimes too).

This site will focus on events and my newest exciting offering - original erotic! Soon there will be audio and print files for you to download. The first story is already in the works and my beta readers tell me it's a winner. All my erotica is based on real events, but embellished for your enjoyment. I look forward to this new chapter. Pun intended. It's always exciting to find new ways to reach out to my  audience.

Speaking of...be sure to check out the events page for information about upcoming workshops and play events including this week's class at Lotus Blooms. If you're in the mood for gorgeous gear and stimulating education, join us on Friday in Old Town Alexandria. 

Finally, there is something BIG in the works for this summer. U Street is never going to be the same again, and I promise - they're gonna like it! And you will too. Stay tuned for more information. We should be making an official announcement in the next few weeks.

Much Love, Domina Vontana